Posted by Jim Shady at 64.236.224.52 on November 12, 2002 at 10:26:33:
In Reply to: OT - Does this make sense to you? posted by Chronically Blunt on November 12, 2002 at 09:18:38:
: So naturally, being that I love the girl, I tell her that it isn't in her best interest, and I would prefer she didn't, assosciate with him.
"Not in her best interest" - more like "not in your best interest". If she's friends with him, your opinion isn't going to sway her. She needs evidence, not hearsay.
: And, as the normal course goes, she says I'm being possessive, they're just friends and that she doesn't see why she can't hang out with him.
You are being possessive, and she's right. The fact that she may end up hurt and bruised by her encounter is something you can hold over her at a later date.
: Consequently, a girl that I used to coach, is going to be in town this weekend, and I told her that I would meet her for dinner. Now, this girl is 19, and I've known her since she was 10. I'm 24. So my girlfriend insists that these two situations are parallel, which I obviously say they are not.
They're completely different, unless you're only meeting this girl out of revenge for your girl meeting this chap.
: So my question is, which of the following roads do I take.
: A. Leave it alone, and take the chance that she gets hurt.
The one and only correct answer. You've said your piece, and if she chooses to ignore you, that's her lookout. You've done all a friend can do.
: B. Give her an ultimatum and forbid her from seeing him.
She'll tell you to fuck right off.
: C. Just beat the ever loving shit out of him, and hope that ends it.
That would prove her assertion that you're being possessive, and would also add violent to that, which can't be a good thing.
Many people need to learn for themselves - they won't just take your word for it. Leave it alone and hope for the best - if she gets hurt, you'll be able to help her without judgement or prejudice, but safe in the knowledge that if she'd listened to you, she'd have been okay.
Jim