Posted by MichelleInMichigan at c-24-11-194-158.client.comcast.net on March 17, 2004 at 16:54:47:
In Reply to: Question about Jennifer Lopez... posted by ThomasOMalley on March 17, 2004 at 15:20:32:
The evil side of me would love to hate her out of jealousy. Rich, beautiful, talented (in my eyes), and had a guy like Ben.
But because I can recognize my own jealousy, I can't hate her for achieving all that she has. It takes a lot of guts to go out there and get in all those markets, and no matter how many helpers she may have, I'm sure it's hard work.
I don't know her personally, so how could I hate her? Envious at times, but never hate.
I'm looking forward to seeing her in JG. I think a lot of the "hate" seems to come from women like me... who wish they had her talent/looks/bank account. I don't quite understand the hate from men. Then again, I rarely understand men.
I'm also looking forward to the press surrounding their breakup/relationship dying down. It's almost torturous to see people asking Ben about all the Jennifer stuff. Who would want to deal with that after a breakup? Yuck.
: OK, I'm just going to ask (at the end of my query):
: I'm NOT going to make a blanket statement and say EVERYONE mentions that they "can't stand J.Lo." But a GOOD AMOUNT of folks - here and other places - just make these statements about her as if they have a clue as to what she is really like. And it seems like it’s become so in-fashion to disparage her. People just nonchalantly say things like: “With the exception of Jennifer Lopez…” or “Good thing she’s only around for 12 minutes…”
: People speak about her as if she just ran over their dog, got out of the car, kicked it, laughed and drove off.
: I understand that fans have certain preferences, i.e. "I like his work in that" or "She turned in quite a performance in this." Sure, have your opinions. She was good in ‘Out of Sight’ and ‘The Cell’ (and JG, for that matter)…I mean, shit - even my favorite actors have “mailed in” a few performances.
: But, since when did not being particularly into a person's work turn into, "Oh, I fucking can't stand so-and-so!" or "She is so this-or-that." I usually ask a person who makes such a statement, "Oh do you know her? What did she do?" And they usually respond with something like, "No…uh…I don't know, I just can't stand her." Rarely do these discussions focus on perceived talent or lack thereof. More specifically, I find it’s never an informed, thoughtful discussion.
: There is also the sad fact that way too many people obsess/discuss celebrities they don't know...but that's a whole other form of psychosis I find fascinating. I know that statement seems like blatant hypocrisy considering the content of this post, but I don't form such strong opinions about celebrities (Other than the fact that Kevin Smith Rules) - I've just NOTICED this harsh trend and I am wondering what the source of it is.
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: So help me out:
: As the kids say, “Why all the hatin’ on Jennifer Lopez?”